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Sex Talk Sundays with Hillary

Illustration by Hillary Smith / Xpress Magazine


Is dirty talk sexy?

Hey weird humanoids. Welcome back to Sex Talk Sundays. Did you miss us? We hope so! Today’s topic: “Is dirty talk sexy?”

Well, what do you think… is it? What even counts as dirty talk? Can you use it on anyone?

My opinion is that of course it can be sexy! It’s one of those things you’re going to have to feel out. And even once you dive in, there’s no guarantee you won’t be turned off by how they reply.


Person 1: “You’re so sexy, I just want to lick you all day.”

Person 2: “Oh baby, I want to eat you up like the double bacon cheeseburger I had for lunch, with extra chili fries!”

Person 1: “…Uhh…”  *end of all future sex scenes with Person 2*

That may be a crazy example, but I have heard weirder scenarios. From my experience with dirty talk, which honestly isn’t a ton, I’ve learned it’s better once I know the person pretty well. Mostly because it doesn’t seem to come from left field, and they have a hunch when to throw it in. That being said, the nature of dirty talk to me is supposed to be a bit surprising – that’s what makes it exciting.

You may know the person, but when they throw in a “I’m gonna **** you so hard,” or “I’m not going to stop until you can’t take it,” ….well, it is exciting. As long as you feel safe, of course. So when it comes to dirty talk, I don’t see any hard-and-fast rules. If you’re curious, the only way is to test it out. And part of testing it out is bracing yourself for however it goes.

Maybe they’ll get weird about it.  But maybe they’ll get into it, and then you’ll get more into it. And you’ll turn into crazy sex freaks who can’t stop talking dirty! And start adding “in beddddd” to everything you say!

No, don’t do that – that’s weird. But, I think it can really add to hot and heavy moments. If anything, hearing someone you’re messing around with tell you “harder,” or “I love that,” can only make you feel good. Unless you have a fetish for being insulted, which is another type of dirty talk.

I do think it’s worth exploring a few times in your life, if you haven’t given it a whirl yet. Otherwise, it’ll remain an untapped commodity in your life. It would be like never trying a shake with french fries.

And if you have never tried a shake with french fries, then you need to cry. But it’s okay, you can wipe your tears with shake fries.

Sex Talk Sundays with Jay

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After being on a hiatus and with finals ramping up, Hillary and I will be doing our last post for the semester. We have come a long way, and our last topic is dirty talk. Does one need it to kink up the sex or not?

So many of us crave it during sex, yet we often feel awkward doing or asking for it. Why do you want to talk dirty to your partner? Why do you want to call your girlfriend a filthy little slut? Because it’s hot. That’s why. It will turn you and your partner on, if you let it happen, that is.

Talking dirty is a skill that all men should master. It’s a great way to turn him or her on. But it’s not easy, and there’s no right or wrong way to do it because every relationship is different and every person likes different things. There’s a fine line between dirty talk and disgusting talk, and it’s hard to find a balance.

Now there’s nothing wrong with wanting to explore the mind’s darker fantasies – to play into a sexual scenario in the privacy of the master bedroom. You shouldn’t feel like a pervert just because you want to vocalize your sexual wants, whatever those wants may be. Talking dirty adds a layer to your cultivated sexual experience.

It can bring you closer to your partner and allow you to explore avenues you may have never ventured through before. It’s nothing to ashamed of; after all it’s sex. It’s supposed to be dirty, erotic, and most of all fun. The hardest part about talking dirty isn’t getting your partner’s permission, it’s coming up with what to say. If you need ideas, erotic literature is a good place to start, and no, I’m not referring to 50 Shades of Grey.

Unlike the library where you have to be subtle and quiet, this isn’t the case when it comes to dirty talk. Raise your voice. There’s a perfectly scientific explanation as to why we say the things we say in the bedroom.

Talking dirty to your partner doesn’t mean you want to degrade him or her. By calling your partner a “little whore,” you’re not actually saying your partner is a whore. You’re simply playing into a fantasy – a change of pace and social placement. If anything, being able to say those dirty, explicit things only emphasizes the trust and intimacy the two of you have as a couple.

If pillow talk makes you and your partner feel more silly than sexy, don’t beat yourself up over it. Ultimately, if you decide that talking dirty isn’t your thing, still having gone there and taken that risk will bring you closer together and make your sex life better no matter what.

If you have any tips, questions or suggestions for future Sex Talk Sunday topics, feel free to tweet me at @WWJAYD.

Sex Talk Sundays with Hillary

Photo by Akiko Photography


Hey coolio people. Welcome back to Sex Talk Sundays with this weirdo. Today’s topic: “Sex! How Soon is Too Soon?”

Dating and relationships are odd these days. The internet lets me find a potential “bae” in the same amount of time it lets me find the closest taco. The taco being the more important commodity. Anyways, this accessibility to romance, hookups and everything in between makes this question all the more pertinent. When is the “right” time to sleep with someone?

Hookups are one thing – a fleeting event both parties have recognized as nothing more than a fling of (hopefully) hot, passionate sex. But dating is a different story. It’s essentially you and another person agreeing to seek out something more than sex. I feel that dating has become super casual, because you CAN find a date so easily. It’s almost “no big deal” anymore. I don’t mean it’s not romantic or sweet or real anymore. Just that it’s… not as big a deal. And because of that, sex isn’t seen as big a deal anymore. Or that’s how I feel people see it now.

Still, I have my own limits for how soon I will sleep with a person. I also think this is such an individual preference. One that depends on how you view sex and what you want out of it at any given time in your life. At it’s best, I think sex is like a Swiss army knife that can accomplish lots of wonderful things. It can make you feel amazing, physically. It can lighten your mood, mentally. And it can add incredible depth to the connection you have to someone you love.

Sometimes, a person just wants to feel physically good. Nothing wrong with that. Sometimes, they want to feel mentally good. Nothing wrong with that. But I want the whole enchilada. I want to feel good physically, mentally, AND I want to build a fucking insane connection with someone I care about. Which is why when it comes to sleeping with someone, I will go for all three, which also means most times it will be after I’ve “hung out” (look at me, being so casual about dating) with someone more than a few times. And probably I’ve seen them do something embarrassing. And probably they’ve seen me do about 10 embarrassing things, like trip over a suitcase on the sidewalk and face plant.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with sleeping with someone on a first date. Maybe I will do that at some point in my life. But for now, I’m loving the trifecta.

Sex Talk Sundays with Jay

Photograph by epSos.de via Flickr.

Last week Hillary and I talked about sex tapes and the pros and cons of recording such acts. This week we wanted to talk about how soon is too soon when it comes to “giving it up” after meeting someone new.

When it comes to giving it up to someone, there really isn’t a guide for when it’s best do it. What I have learned is when you go out to the bar and it’s 1 a.m. or so, that might not be the best time because your inhibitions are slightly off-point and your judgment is clouded. I’ve been down this road in the past and the only feelings I’ve had afterwards were guilt and regret.

Now I normally meet people through friends or online apps such as Tinder. When I meet people through these outlets, I’ve yielded a higher success rate in terms of finding something with more substance as opposed to a one night stand following a drunken encounter at a bar. Perhaps it comes down to the individual and what the expectations are. I prefer deeper conversations of more serious topics such as long and short-term goals. After a couple dates, that’s when I find that bond with the person and feel comfortable “giving it up.”

I’m not sure what others might think about this, but I don’t like just giving it up and moving along. I did that in my early 20’s and was never able to find something serious.

When it comes to being intimate, I need two things: passion and communication. I want to experience something that’s not just a mechanical quest for an orgasm. And with communication lacking, it’s up to chance to see if what happens next is a hit or miss.

Something to keep in mind when potentially giving it up is to ask yourself what it is you’re seeking. Are you looking for quick gratification or would you like to have something more serious with potential for it to blossom? The decision is yours, and if you find that you may want something more serious, then stop yourself right before you give it up when you’re out at the bar drinking the night away.

If you have any tips, questions or suggestions for future Sex Talk Sunday topics, feel free to tweet me at @WWJAYD.

Sex talk Sundays with Hillary

Illustration by Pamela Coleman-Smith


Sex tapes, yay or nah?

Welcome back to Sex Talk Sundays. I wonder how many times you’ve thought about sex this week. Was it a lot? Well, you’re about to again, because this week’s topic is sex tapes… ohh, scandalous.

This is only my take. Have you ever logged on Facebook, seen that you had about 20 notifications, then clicked on them to find a photo of yourself mid-talk, eyes half open with about ten chins? Imagine that, but instead of finding that unflattering single photo, you discover a 10-minute gem of you and your partner twisting weirdly around with each other trying to look sexy. The angles are horrible, the lighting is horrible and the whole thing looks like a drawn-out spoof of some awkward American Pie scene.

Therein lie the two reasons I can’t see myself ever making a sex tape in the near future: leakage of the video, and the realization of how painfully awkward you may truly look while in the throes of hot, sweaty passion. We all have those moments when we feel like a million bucks. The air is blowing your hair back, you’re rocking some sweet-ass shirt, and you haven’t tripped in at least two blocks (Uh, that’s just me then?). Or you’re with someone, getting diggity down, and you just feel hot, because the moment is hot. That’s amazing, actually. And so I understand the impulse to record that moment. To capture that sexiness you’re feeling so you can dwell and revel in it later. It’s just that later it probably won’t look too hot, and may end up chilling your sex life. I want mine scalding hot!

If you’re the type who doesn’t care how you look in photos at all or who sees those photos, then friggen have at it! And have fun. And I’m a little bit jealous. But at least I can be my nerdy self and know that I’ll never log on to Facebook to find that horror film starring me titled Sex: Nice Try!

Sex Talk Sundays with Jay

Photograph by epSos.de via Flickr.

For this week’s topic, Hillary and I decided to talk about sex tapes and if they’re something you should take part in or not.

Sex tapes have long existed with people and some are fond of them while others or more of the in the moment fun type. In this day in age one thing to consider is that everything is connected and while most of us think everything is secure there’s always that chance for something to leak out. This happened to such celebrities like Kim Kardashian, Paris Hilton and Miley Cyrus.

In regards to Kim Kardashian’s sex tape with Ray J which is easily found online if you simply type “Kim Kardashian sex tape” it’s seemed to have lost it’s flair.. This is most likely due to her success with video game Kim Kardashian: Hollywood.

1 Night in Paris depicted Paris Hilton having intercourse with Rick Salomon and wasn’t intended to be released but one knows how that ended. Most of the scenes were filmed with a night vision camera.

Miley Cyrus and Patrick Schwarzenegger allegedly make them and delete them all the time but have yet to be leaked.

The thing with sex tapes is that people film themselves with their partner to capture the passion and have progressed from the courtship dance stage. This is admirable and I can respect couples that want to look back at their memories of passion. As humans we can occasionally let our emotions take control and are living for the moment and don’t think about the repercussions.

Not unless the person that’s partaking in the sex tape has given full consent and both parties have talked about what would happen if for some unforeseen event both parties split up what would happen to the tapes there should be no sex tape. This is where Kim and Paris’ didn’t think it through and did something far worse than making a sex tape, trusted a man.

I’ve always been tempted to do my own sex tape but the fact that someone could use that to blackmail me or with a simply click ruin me if enough for me to stay away from cameras pointing at me. The most I’ve done is followed in Miley’s footsteps and taken photos or “photo-burst” to look back at them in the near future but then deleting them to avoid any sort of power imbalance.

Sex tapes are fun while in recording but that feeling quickly turns sour when you realize that you need to store it in a safe place that might not be able to get hacked. I would take Ray J’s advice and “Never Shoulda Did That…” (the title to the song he released after the sex tape scandal) to make sure I cover all my bases and not just the ones that my partner helped out with. Good thing only him and I know what happened because there is no evidence aside from our memory to remember that day. What will you do on your next night of passion?

If you have any tips, questions or suggestions for future Sex Talk Sunday topics feel free to tweet me at @WWJAYD.

Sex Talk Sundays with Hillary

Illustration by Pamela Coleman Smith


It’s about time we got the fun sex talk back into Xpress Magazine. It’s a rite of passage on any college campus! Why ignore something many of us think about so often, anyway? We don’t want it to be this weird, exciting, scary topic that’s ignored — we want it to be this weird, exciting, scary topic that we all talk about, that we address. We’ve read about the hookups and sexual escapades on campus that are dumped all over the SF State confessions page. We have seen the hand-carved declarations on the bathroom walls: “I rocked his world in this stall.” So we’re going to talk about it from a guy’s perspective and a girl’s view. We’re going to lay out our experiences and honest opinions about hook-ups, awkward sexual encounters, scary adventures, misunderstandings — all of it, from both Jay’s and Hillary’s perspective. We’re going to make Sundays sexy. And if there’s something you’d like to hear about, write a comment or send an email.

And with that, welcome to the first post for this column! Today’s topic: Have you ever faked an orgasm?

I have faked an orgasm once, maybe twice before. Not because I wasn’t into the person or they couldn’t make me feel good. But because, for some reason, it wasn’t happening. And I could tell they were trying. I faked it because I could tell they wanted to make me feel really amazing. And I don’t regret faking it either. Here’s why. When somebody makes me something, or does something nice for me, I want to say thank you. I want to show them I value the effort they put in.

So I faked the big O only in situations where 1. I cared about the person, and relationship, and 2. Nine times out of ten, they were able to get me there, easily. Every once in a while, a person will fake it, and in my experience, it doesn’t mean much.

This isn’t crazy. We all do it… with everything. We fake liking entrees loved ones made us. We fake having a good time at a movie that our best was dying to see. I gave my best friend a gag gift for Christmas. And when she opened the horrendous jewelry, “hair mascara” (yes, it’s a real thing) and neon bright lipstick, she did something insane. She planted a huge smile on her face, grabbed me for a hug, and thanked me. She was faking it.

Is it so much more “immoral” to fake this, simply because it’s sexual?

I’m not saying we should fake it often. And I’m also not saying that we should have a sexual relationship with a person who can’t make you float in bed. Because, seriously, I’m all about being fulfilled in that way. But on rare occasions, when they’re trying, trying and it’s still not happening, I don’t see anything wrong with faking it just that one time. I rather pretend once than make them feel like they aren’t great. If the next time you two go at it, and still nothing, that’s a different story. I’d say, “I’m sorry, babe, but… just, not feeling that. Let’s try it this way.” Because that’s not so hard either.

Sex Talk Sundays with Jay

Photograph by epSos.de via Flickr.

It’s about time we got the fun sex talk back into Xpress Magazine. It’s a rite of passage on any college campus! Why ignore something many of us think about so often, anyway? We don’t want it to be this weird, exciting, scary topic that’s ignored — we want it to be this weird, exciting, scary topic that we all talk about, that we address. We’ve read about the hookups and sexual escapades on campus that are dumped all over the SF State confessions page. We have seen the hand-carved declarations on the bathroom walls: “I rocked his world in this stall.” So we’re going to talk about it from a guy’s perspective and a girl’s view. We’re going to lay out our experiences and honest opinions about hook-ups, awkward sexual encounters, scary adventures, misunderstandings — all of it, from both Jay’s and Hillary’s perspective. We’re going to make Sundays sexy. And if there’s something you’d like to hear about, write a comment or send an email.

And with that, welcome to the first post for this column! Today’s topic: Have you ever faked an orgasm?

Personally, I have faked an orgasm once when I was with this guy from San Mateo. We met through this app called Grindr and thought it would be fun. I met up at his house and everything was going smooth. We started by kissing and caressing one another and you can imagine where I am going with this.

When it came to having an orgasm I could sense he was getting close so I realized that I hadn’t yet and needed to before he was done. This is where I think I did things wrong. Breathing louder and inhaling in shorter intervals that was my cue to “fake it”.

A couple minutes later he orgasmed.

When it comes to my sexual partners I like to oragasm in sync. Something about this really makes it euphoric for me as it really comes down to feeling the passion and not be so mechanical.

One of my biggest pet peeves when it comes to men is that as soon as they orgasm it’s game over for the other person. They came, they conquered and want to go back to playing video games. Now I don’t know about you but it’s takes two people to make this happen and the least your partner can do is give you the same pleasure. Here lies a problem that I see all too common with people. There’s a lack of communication that could result in one or the other orgasm. Now with San Mateo dude I wasn’t communicating anything and there definitely wasn’t passion and this resulted in me never talking to him again.

So needless to say, faking an orgasm got me nothing aside from a painful experience.

Happy Safe Sex-ing, SF State

Photo under Creative Commons by Nate Grigg

“Don’t have sex, because you will get pregnant and die.”


Coach Carr instilling fear in the teenagers of America in 2004’s Mean Girls is the first thing that comes to mind when I think of a sex education class. But SF State’s Minor in Sexuality Studies takes a different approach when teaching students about intimate relationships, reproduction, and the moral contexts of sex and love.

Megan Stoeckel, a senior at SF State enrolled in a sexuality course to fulfill her segment three requirement. She also learned about various methods of birth control. Before taking sex education classes, she says she pretty much only knew about the pill and condoms as effective methods of birth control; now, she is educated in over twenty different methods to combat unwanted pregnancy.

“Ivy Chen is the best teacher I’ve ever had; You learn and write about things that are applicable to your own sex life,” says Stoeckel about her Contemporary Sexuality course.

When thinking about what the best methods of birth control, it is important to remember that one size does not fill all.

This article will be covering just a few methods to combat unwanted pregnancy.


Contraceptive Sponge

The greatest thing about the sponge is that you can buy a pack of three at your local Wal-Mart for only $9.96. The foam sponge is small, soft, and shaped like Trish’s Mini Donuts from Fisherman’s Wharf. It is inserted straight into the vagina along the back wall against the cervix, acting as a barrier to prevent sperm from reaching an egg. This method will only work against pregnancy for twenty four hours and must be left inside of the vagina for at least six hours after intercourse. There is a chance that the sponge may tear during use, leading to a messy clean up as you fish all the pieces out. Anywhere from 9 percent to 24 percent of woman using this method alone will become pregnant each year.

Pullout Method

A craze seemingly-perfect for college students who are pinching pennies, this method is absolutely free. If you are worried about pre-ejaculation leading to an unwanted pregnancy, the most recent study found that about one-third of the pre-cum samples collected from men contained live sperm. So, if it is a risk you are willing to take, I suggest using apps like Glow and Clue to track you, or your partner’s, menstrual cycle, which will notify you when you, or your partner, are most fertile. Using a condom during these dates can help reduce possible pregnancies when relying on the pullout method.

Vasaigel – Male Birth Control (coming soon)

If human trials run smoothly, a reversible form of male birth control may be here by 2017. Vasaigel will enter the male body through an injection straight into the vas deferences, the tube transfers sperm in anticipation of ejaculation, thus blocking sperm from flowing freely through the urethra. So far, this method has been tested on three baboons and had a whopping success rate; after six months of frequent action with ten to fifteen female baboons, none of them have gotten pregnant. Cameron Shubb, an SF State senior says about the male birth control, “I would certainly use it after it was approved. I feel male birth control takes pressure off women, God knows you all go through a lot, I just try to avoid needles unless I really need them.”

Female Condom

The first time I saw a female condom was three years ago, freshman year, when I got my first brown paper bag full of goodies from the SF State Health Center. In the midst of multi-colored condoms and lubricant was an oversized white package with a hot pink Venus symbol stamped on the front. Confused, I opened up the package and found a large plastic pouch with two rings at each end. To use a female condom, one end is to be inserted into the vagina while the other ring remains outside. Sure it may look unattractive, but unlike many of the other methods, female condoms work against preventing sexually transmitted diseases.

Male Condom

Male condoms are one of the few ways that not only prevent unwanted pregnancy but also work against dangerous sexually transmitted diseases. The list goes on and on from working against gonorrhea, chlamydia and HIV. Free condoms, both latex and non-latex, can be found in the Educational & Referral Organization of Sexuality Center in Cesar Chavez and at the SF State Health Center. If you are up for a treat, a variety of condoms can be found at San Francisco’s Good Vibrations, a sex based shop that carries vegan, studded and glow in the dark condoms. Prices vary from $0.30 to $2.50 per condom.

The Pill 

The pill is a hormone based oral contraceptive that alters your body’s ability to get pregnant. This is done by attacking your body with extra hormones which in turn keeps the female eggs from leaving the ovaries and also by thickening the cervical mucus, preventing sperm from traveling through freely. One of the major problems with this method is remembering to take it daily, which can be a struggle for the busy college student. The myPill app, available in the Apple App Store, promises to make sure you will never miss a pill ever again by sending reminders.


There are a wide variety of contraceptive options out there and it is safe to say there is an option for everyone, even if it takes some experimenting. And the best part – there are plenty of places on campus to help you find what suits you best.


The SF State Health Center offers a drop-in birth control clinic where you can quickly refill your prescription on Mondays, Wednesdays and Thursdays. The center offers along with various informational sessions throughout the year.

By joining Family PACT students can also receive free testing and treatment for sexually transmitted diseases. Joining the government program is free for Californians and all birth control options, both for men and woman, are provided at no cost. Their offices at located in side the SF State Student Health Center.

The EROS center, located in the Cesar Chavez Student Center M-109, offers safe sex materials including: condoms, dental dams, lubricants and latex gloves. EROS also offers educational events throughout the year. Their next sex education event, P Spot, will highlight how pleasurable prostate stimulation can be. Charlie Glickman, author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure will be speaking at the event. It will be held on October 8th in the Rosa Parks A-C Student Center at 2:30 p.m.

If all else fails, it is good to know that SF State has an early care and education center where you can drop off your infant while you continue to pursue your education.

Take this survey so we can find out the most popular birth control methods at SF State!

Between The Sheets

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Written by Jourdon Ahn

Welcome to a new kind of sex column, where we believe in a safe space for (a)sexuality that encompasses all peoples and their beautiful pussies and penises.

I’m seeking to accurately reflect the diversity seen everyday on the bus, at school, work, or on the street. Between the Sheets is an attempt to provoke knowledge, share experiences, affirm sexualities, create conversation, and perhaps alleviate horny curiosities.

This isn’t your mother’s sex column. It’s just as much for straight males and females, as it is your gay roommate, queer professor, transgender coworker, non-binary classmate—it’s for us all.

Maira McDermott, a gender studies major at SF State, agrees that “We live in an incredibly fluid society, especially in San Francisco and at SFSU. Our student body is so full of variance in sexual orientations, genders, and political views, that I think having a different kind of sex blog would be eye opening, or at least more comfortable for a large population.”

Now maybe you’re wondering who I am, the voice inside the font, and why I’m the author of this column. It could be because I’m a pansexual cis female or because I’ve got a lot of opinions. But, mainly it’s because I seek out this kind of discourse in order to understand myself, feel natural and find empowerment, just like many of you.

Our culture is both sex-negative (or sex-critical) and sex-positive, and most people fall into one category, though there is a gray area. Neither identifier is the good or bad choice; it’s simply a difference.

Brooke Glasky, Director of the ASI’s Women’s Center identifies as a sexually empowered and positive woman because to her, “being able to not only have the freedom and right to be sexually empowered, but also gifted in the sense of being able to say no, is something [she] personally cherishes everyday.”

Sex-negativity expresses a different sentiment. Olivia Mendez, a heterosexual, cis-female student explained, “I don’t always find sex empowering and don’t think it has to be. I think the implications of sex-positivity are one’s that do not include room for people that have suffered sexual trauma or are questioning their own sexuality.”

McDermott acknowledges the gray area though she identifies more with sex-negativity, “This is not to say that sex is not wonderful, however, a lot of sex-positivity that I’ve seen has been problematic…it ignores survivors of sexual assault, imposes compulsory sexuality, and ignores trans individuals. Sex-negativity doesn’t necessarily cover these aspects, but it at least feels more critical and inclusive.”

Although most like to believe that sex is inherently private—it’s not. Sex- positivity, negativity, and the gray area are only pieces to the neverending stimulation of sex, so let’s talk about it.

If you want to share experiences, suggest topics, critique, flirt, or cry—tell me more at sfsubetweenmysheets@gmail.com.

Lulu: Whether You Like It or Not

Written by Rhys Robinson
Photo by Philip Houston

Let’s be honest for a moment, fellas. At one point or another, we’ve all been stood up. Maybe the smoking hot blonde you chatted up in history class bailed on you at the last-minute. Or the Latin cutie you danced the night away with never returned your calls.

The reasons behind these tragic tales of puppy-dog-heartbreak vary. But what if I told you that one of the reasons you’re striking out could be due to your reputation on Lulu. What is Lulu you ask?

Lulu is a new female-friendly and controversial mobile app that allows women to anonymously rate their male Facebook friends on a number of attributes, including their appearance and sexual prowess.

Synched via Facebook, a man’s appearance on Lulu is completely involuntary. Women can log in and declare whether they were in a relationship with the man, a hook-up, a crush or just a friend. Thereafter, they rate the guy’s humor, attractiveness, ability to commit, manners and ambition on a scale from one to ten. The ratings are averaged out to produce an overall score that appears below the man’s profile photo.

In addition, women can apply a number of hash tags on a man’s profile to paint a more descriptive picture. Such hashtags include #Big.Feet #WeirdDirtyTalk, #ChangesSheetsRegularly, #LovesLoveActually, #BragsAboutAlcoholConsumption, #F—-dMeAndChuckedMe, #WouldVoteForAFemalePresident and #TotalF—ingDickhead.

“I think some of those hashtags are pretty hurtful,” says San Francisco resident Sander Idelson. “I for one would not like to be called a total fucking dickhead.”

Co-founder and CEO Alexandra Chong created the app to give women a safe zone to conduct extensive girl talk. Launched on Android and iOS in June of 2012, the app has been quite successful, as over 80 million profiles have been reviewed since mid-January.

To the guys receiving positive reviews, the app’s emergence has been a pleasant experience.

“I would be really excited to see what an ex would have to say about me,” says San Francisco State student Ryan Kinlock. ”Even if the review was negative, I think it is an easy thing to blow off.”

Additionally, some women are thrilled to have an app that provides insight on prospective boyfriends. The ability to see what their fellow sistren have said is a somewhat useful (even if unreliable) dating tool.

“I like the app because I think it empowers women,” says Elyse Guzman, an Otis College student. “It allows them to be in control of what rank these guys fall in. To be honest, it’s nice watching guys squirm over what their ratings are.”

On the other hand, some women are a bit turned off to the idea, classifying the app as creepy and classless. Whereas some men are none too happy about the creation of a potential social-media monster.

“I find it to be an unreasonable invasion of privacy and trust within a relationship,” says San Francisco State student Ryan Thorp. “If an ex rated me I’d be nervous, because I don’t believe all users would be impartial and fair. I find the whole idea to be crass.”

Conversely, other men don’t care about the potential threat Lulu imposes on their dating reputation, viewing the app as just a silly gadget girls use for gossip.

“It’s a good way for girls to blow off steam,” says Kinlock. “I’m not sure how helpful it is for girls to compare guys to one another but I thought it was a good way for them to vent.”

Earlier this year, Chong was quoted in the Huffington Post saying, “Should a guy not do well in a particular category, then they can change their behavior.” However, guys are unable to view their profile, as Lulu processes their gender status through Facebook and blocks them if they’re not female. Therefore, even if a guy grades out poorly in a category, he’s unable to find out unless he lurks from a female friend’s account.

Some men and women alike believe Lulu users are employing a double standard, as the app is blatantly sexist during an era when such sexism would be frowned upon if the app were targeted toward male users.

For instance, if a man’s version of Lulu was developed that included such hashtags as #Waxed, #OnlyWearsGrannyPanties and #DoesntGiveBJs, what would the public reaction be?

“It would scream misogyny,” says Idelson. “But the difference between men and women is that when men hear something misogynistic, they typically shrug it off.  Whereas women start a feminist movement to publicly shame the offender.”

On top of that, some believe Lulu is inherently flawed as the users are naturally biased. If a woman had a pleasant relationship with an ex-boyfriend, would she really take time out of her day to boost his stock with a glowing Lulu review?

“Posts are anonymous,” says SF State graduate Ariel Urlik. “It is tempting to see what other people are saying about you. It can either be an ego boost or a blow. But again take it all with a grain of salt. Remember these ratings can be written in a moment of anger or passion.”

If a relationship is successful, then there isn’t much incentive for a woman to provide positive feedback. As such, reviewers are mostly limited to those engaged in a platonic relationship, hookups, or bitter ex-girlfriends with a vengeful agenda.

Furthermore, according to the app’s terms and conditions, men who don’t want to have a profile on Lulu must send in an email with their Facebook username attached demanding to be deleted.

Subsequently, any man whose name has been publicly defamed must go through an annoying process to eradicate himself from a mess he did nothing to get himself into.